I struggle greatly with Boy Scouts. They've been around long enough to have resources that other groups can't match, but to me, that makes the discrimination issues *feel* more icky to me, even more of a "see how awesome we are without you unmentionables!" kind of a deal. Your registration fees and a percentage of fundraising do fund the national organization, so your money goes to support those beliefs even if you don't want it to. Boy Scouts does vary from troop to troop, like any group with individual chapters, but that means you have to work hard, depending on where you live, to find a group that will be more liberal where you'll be comfortable and welcomed.

We've put our little guy in SpiralScouts. He is severely speech & language delayed, and is one of the youngest kids in the group, so he's really struggling with the whole concept of meetings and such, but I think we'll get there eventually.

SpiralScouts varies greatly from group to group to - maybe moreso than bigger, more established programs. Each individual troop is exactly what the families put into it, nothing more or less. It is a *ton* of work, because of the lack of infrastructure (and I say that as someone who has been deeply involved in the organization in the past).

I'd also suggest looking into 4H. Where I grew up there were still clubs that focused on livestock, but there were also a lot of neat options for more suburban kids who really weren't in a position to raise a cow.