And right now, my "lifestyle" involves waking up early so I can stop by the children's hospital to visit the littlest before I go to work, and then spending a couple hours with the older child so Mom can get some quieter time with the baby, and anything else I can think to offer to make their life less nuts right now. Is this what you're disapproving of, nay-sayers? Because clearly, this "lifestyle" we've managed so long is harmful to the children, to J and B's relationship, and so on? *sigh.* To be fair, I've seen poly-drama I wouldn't want children within 10 miles of, but the same goes for monogamous relationships too.